After an unwanted sexual experience, looking after yourself is the priority. If you feel in danger or need immediate help, call 111.
My strength hasn't come from myself alone, it's come from those who walked with me. Because I couldn't have done this without help. There's been a lot of people whose strength has helped me.
You don't have to get through this on your own. The effects of sexual violence will vary, everyone is different and there is no one way to react to sexual violence. The effects may be physical, emotional, psychological or behavioural. There's support available no matter what your situation is or whether it happened yesterday or decades ago. It's never too late to get support.
Financial Support through ACC:
If you're a victim of sexual violence you may be eligible for financial support to help cover some of the costs of the crime(external link). ACC pays the full cost of counselling for sexual violence and you DO NOT have to make a report to Police to access ACC-funded counselling. ACC will only pay for counselling that is provided by an ACC registered counsellor; find someone in your area(external link). For more information about claims you can free call 0800 101 996.
Victims of crime in New Zealand have rights. They cover things such as how you should expect to be treated. These rights are set out in the Victim's Code(external link).
I think one of the barriers for people coming out about [sexual violence] is the sense that they will be judged. Men are supposed to be strong and not have emotions and I think that's a very big part of it.
MYTH: But they're in a relationship and still together...
FACT: Sexual violence can happen in relationships. Being forced into sex, even if they know and love the person, is a form of abuse. It's hard to leave an abusive relationship and people may stay for all kinds of reasons.